Pathways to growth and healing evolve with a greater awareness of self-defeating patterns of behavior and ways of relating to others.  Knowing more about yourself is critical, and learning how to feel more comfortable in your own shoes requires working with someone who is trained to help you make use of that insight. Experimenting with new ways of being and relating in the world start in the safety of the space we create together. Learning new skills may also help remove obstacles to your goals for change.  While the course of treatment evolves on an individual basis, a more detailed description of relational psychotherapy is outlined below.

Relational Psychotherapy

Relational Psychotherapy is one branch of modern psychoanalytic psychotherapy that I think is most useful to the people I see. It is a powerful, effective model for working with individuals who suffer from chronic emotional, psychological, and/or relational distress.

It is based on the following principles:

  • Emotional well-being depends on having satisfying mutual relationships with others.
  • Emotional distress is often rooted in patterns of relational experience, past and present, which have the   power to demean and deaden the self.
  • The relational therapist tries to understand the client’s unique self-experience in its social/relational context and to respond with empathy and genuine presence.
  • Together, the client and therapist create a new in-depth relationship, which is supportive, strengthening, and enlivening for the client.  Within this secure relationship, the client can safely re-experience, and then find freedom from the powerful effects of destructive relationships past and present.
  • Empowerment and growth through interpersonal connection are both the process and the goal of relational psychotherapy.
  • Relational therapists help clients understand, on the one hand, their own patterns of thoughts and feelings about themselves, and on the other hand, the power of significant relationships, past and present, to shape this self-experience. Through the interpersonal process of therapeutic interaction, relational therapy strengthens and transforms a client’s sense of self, which in turn enhances his or her confidence and well-being in the world.
  • With this perspective on therapy and relationships, a relational therapist takes seriously the inter-personal impact of power differentials and social issues such as race, class, culture, gender, and sexual difference. Working with these issues as they present in the client’s life and the therapeutic relationship.
  • The principles of relational psychotherapy are drawn from self-psychology, intersubjectivity theory, relational psychoanalysis, psychodynamic developmental theory, trauma theory, and feminist theories of psychotherapy.

On the Documents page, you will find more information about psychoanalytic psychotherapy.